Don’t tolerate second class behavior! September 20, 2007
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What do I mean by “second class behavior” you wonder? Flaking, not returning phone calls, canceling dates repetitively with short notice, being unavailable more often than a reasonable person would, being “busy” all the time and alike are all signs of second class behavior that you have no reasons to tolerate.
Putting up with the above treatment from anyone has a double harmful effect on you: first, it hurst your self-esteem and self respect because when you accept this kind of treatment from another person, you communicate to him / her and to yourself that you don’t deserve any better and that your time and life are not valuable and thus can be “played” with or disregarded with ease; secondly, any dating situation or relationship in which one person treats with the other with lack of basic respect is doomed. Whoever hopes that their partner’s inconsiderate attitude and conduct will change is deceiving themselves. In vast majority of cases it doesn’t, but it only gets worse.
So, don’t waste your time on anyone who doesn’t reciprocate your attention. There is no reason to. Move on without hesitation and pursue relationships with those people whose sense of personal responsibility and respect for your time and life make them worthy potential romantic partners.
Never say this to a woman when you are trying to set up a date! September 20, 2007
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Suppose you talk to a girl for the first time after you met her or shortly after. You are trying to set up the time and place for the two of you to meet, but it appears that you can’t quite figure out when both of you are available to see each other.
In that situation, whatever you do, don’t say: “Well, just give me a call and let me know when you are available…. ” NO, NO, NO!!!
You NEVER want to be in a position of waiting for a woman’s call or leaving it up to her to call you. This strategy is a loser for several reasons. First, most girls don’t call unless they are already really into you which is usually rare at the early stages of your interactions with them. Most women naturally want to be assured and reassured that the guy likes them, wants to see them, and puts some work into it. Secondly, if you decide to call after you haven’t heard from her in a while, you are going to feel stupid because… you asked her to call you.
So, if a woman is uncertain about when she is available, instead of saying “call me and let me know,” tell her “ok, I will call you in a few days and see if you figured out your schedule a little better.”
Keep the option and the power of contacting a woman to yourself, and you will be much better off while coming across as a more attractive and confident guy.